it’s 100% true that you never know what battle someone is facing & we really are all facing something.
it doesn’t matter how big or small it may seem to you, a bad day of just little unfortunate events, a funk you can’t seem to shake, depression, death of a family member or friend, lost job, have a job but hate it, lost in life in general. whatever. it. is. we all have something at one time or another. AND THAT’S OK.
i think something huge i've learned in the past year is we are all going through internal struggles that aren't in any way announced to the world. some of us have it all together but battle depression. some of us have health issues that we just come to deal with day to day. others of us have secrets and regrets and things eating us up right and left. then others of us have an amazing job, great family, loving friends, and still can’t figure out what’s wrong, why we can't just be happy. you might be thinking oh that’s not me.. i'm not like that. and that's ok, but so what if you are? what if we are?
there shouldn’t be and shouldn’t have ever been a stigma on depression, or therapy, or being overwhelmed, or emotional, or unsettled or fed up. we’re not “too hormonal” or “just being women”, or can't handle stress. we’re being humans. we feel things. we express those feelings and we’re all just trying to feel something positive in this world. so when we don’t feel on top of our game, or something is off we have the power and the emotional intelligence to realize that. and it’s ok if we’re overwhelmed with work, or relationships, or the loud busy city, or the fact that there was no almond milk left at our favorite coffee shop. IT'S OH KAY. because we’re battling the elements every single day, whatever our 'elements' are. we’re putting our best selves forward and sometimes that’s hard as hell for a million different reasons. no we may not be saving the world, fighting for our lives, taking on a war or the biggest challenge to hit humanity, but we sure are in charge of our lives and it's ok if we're not ok sometimes.
so when you’re checking out at the grocery store after waiting 100 hours to get to the front of the line, or someone awful bumps into you in the subway and you spill your whole coffee that you truly needed to be alive, or someone is nasty to you on the phone when they’re the customer service rep so isn’t it your job to be pleasant, remember that they’re human too. it’s no excuse to be terrible to each other, but maybe if we had just an ounce of empathy throughout our day, an extra smile here and there, a positive aura around us even if our own little world is going to shit, then maybe it’ll be like the butterfly effect in a god way. maybe just maybe it will rub off on another person. that way when something does happen, when we are depressed, when someone we love passes on, when our world really is too much, maybe it’ll come full circle. & that positive energy we put out into the world when we are on top will come back when we aren’t so head held high.
someone else will have the power to offer a helping hand, and excuse me, a smile.